When It’s Time to Heal, Whatever You Do Please Don’t Do it Alone

Emily Stroia
3 min readNov 11, 2019

More than solitude we need the support of each other to move forward

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This is the thing about healing. It’s personal. It’s intimate. It’s fucking messy. It’s not our prettiest most glorious self.

Some people might be quick to dismiss you because “you got issues” to say the least (which by the way is fucking selfish to say).

But the reality is — we all got issues. And if you claim you don’t then you are living a lie. It doesn’t matter if you have issues. What does matter is how you deal with your issues.

In the healing process it’s almost normalized for us to retreat, to ghost each other, to come out of a funk and then reach out for coffee. We hide. We don’t talk about what’s going on.

We are expected to do deal with our pain silently — and that’s the problem.

Healing has many faces and forms. There is no perfect way to heal. And we won’t look perfect in our healing process. The worst thing we can do is hide what our healing looks like.

Yes — your healing process is intimate, scary and vulnerable. It takes time. It is exhausting but it can also be life-changing.

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Emily Stroia

Psych therapist in training. I write about mental health, trauma, well-being, and spirituality. Stay for a while. www.emilystroia.com