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The Unexpected Rites of Passage in Motherhood
3 min readApr 29, 2019
on loneliness and re-discovering who you are
“How do you feel being a mother now?”
It’s everything and more. The only thing is sometimes I feel like I don’t know who I am outside of motherhood.
I constantly am asking myself, “Who am I?”.
“What do you mean?
You should know who you are now more than ever.”
Exact words from a conversation I recently had about my journey into motherhood.
When I gave birth to my son I had no idea how much it would impact my sense of self and relationship to the world.
No one told me about the unexpected rites of passage in motherhood.
No one told me about the paradox of motherhood.
Sure, I got plenty of unsolicited advice.
“Get plenty of sleep now because you won’t be sleeping later!”
“Kids change relationships so enjoy each other now.”
“The first year is the hardest but it will get better.”
