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The Science Behind Toxic Relationships

love is not always black and white

Emily Stroia
4 min readMay 22, 2019
Photo by Keisuke Higashio on Unsplash

Trying to end a toxic relationship can feel exhausting.

It’s not always clear when a relationship gets toxic until we reach our tipping point.

I’ve been in toxic relationships where I was confused by my emotions.

We can often get tripped up over what we feel for the person.
Care for another can quickly blur into rescuing another.

When a relationship got toxic one of my go-to solutions in fixing the problem was “cutting people out”.

However I’d only repeat the cycle of toxicity but with a different person.

I realized that I was attracted to toxic people because of my own unhealed wounds.

There is a strange paradox to toxic relationships.

We may love the person and don’t want to feel like we are abandoning them so we stick around through it all.

However sometimes it can do more harm to our mental health than good.

Signs you are in a toxic relationship.

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Emily Stroia
Emily Stroia

Written by Emily Stroia

Associate Marriage and Family Therapist. I write about mental health, healing from trauma, and finding self again. Stay for a while. www.emilystroia.com

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